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一个人也是一支队伍 Gift for a Better Life

Because you’re constantly reacting to the world, it’s easy to notice what is happening right around you. You respond to what you read in a letter from a friend, what you hear in a phone conversation, what you learn on the television evening news about what’s going on in other parts of the world. You are part of that world. You’re 1)touched by everything that happens. Think of the whole world as made up of 2)interrelating parts and you are one of those parts. Meanwhile you are a whole person, made up of interrelating parts that are constantly affecting each other.

The “physical you” (your body): your 3)tangible structure and the five senses that enable you to touch, see, hear, smell, and taste the world around you.

The “mental you” (your thoughts): your knowledge, attitudes, and beliefs. Your 4)analytical self.

The “emotional you” (your feelings): your range of emotions from fear and anger to love and joy.

The “spiritual you” (your spirit): your relationship with yourself, your creativity, and your life purpose.

These four key aspects of who you are work together like members of a team. For the team to be effective, each member (each aspect of your “whole self”) must have its needs met and must be able to work in harmony with the other team members. When one team member has a problem, the other members are touched. Your life gets out of balance. Your awareness of the interacting of these key aspects of who you are is a powerful tool you can use to figure out what might work best to get things back into balance and harmony.

An example of how this might work: What if you lack energy all the time and never feel like doing anything? A 5)checkup by your doctor doesn’t find anything wrong with you physically. Then you notice that your mental state is less than ideal. You’re having a hard time making decisions. Your emotions are also out of balance, and you’re feeling sad more often than you’re feeling happy. And when you look at your spiritual self, you realize that you have no sense of life purpose. You don’t feel like you matter.

If you work hard to find something that will “make your heart sing,” you can make a difference (however small) in the world. This establishes your life purpose. It will help you feel better about yourself. Then you find that you’re happy more often than you’re sad, and with your confidence growing, you find it easier to make good decisions. Now you wake up each morning feeling eager for the day, feeling excited about what you can do today. You discover you have the energy and motivation to go out and do things.

Here, your spiritual team member was the core, or root cause, of your challenge. Once you took care of the spiritual member of your team, the other members of the team could get back in harmony with each other and 6)function in your best interests.

When any aspect of our self is out of balance, it will let us know. We are in charge of our team. We can use our new understanding and look at each of the four key aspects of the whole—our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual selves—until we understand which member of the team has the root cause. Now we come to our “7)aha!” moment. We know what we need to do.

Use what you’ve learned here as your guide to 8)nurture the team member that’s out of balance. Use the other team members to help. By giving every member of your team a chance to participate, you can help yourself be well. Enjoy the benefits when all members of your team are back in harmony. That’s what 9)wellness is.

因为你不断地对这个世界做出反应,所以很容易注意到周围正发生的一切。阅读朋友的来信、听一段电话对话、看电视晚间新闻提到世界其他地方发生着的事情,对这一切你都会作出反应。你是那个世界的一部分。你被所发生的一切影响着。要知道,整个世界是由息息相关的各个部分组成,而你是其中的一部分。同时,你是一个完整的人,由互相关联、互相影响的各个部分组成。

“实体的你”(你的身体):你有实体的结构和五官感觉,它们使你能够触、看、听、闻、品你周围世界的一切。

“精神的你”(你的思想):你的知识、态度、信仰以及你的自我分析。

“情感的你”(你的感受):你的恐惧、愤怒、喜爱以及快乐。

“灵魂的你”(你的灵魂):你与自己、个人创造力、人生目标之间的关系。

这四个方面的“你”一起组成一个团队。为了让这个团队有效运作,每个队员(“整体自我”的四个部分)必须满足自身需求,必须能够和其他队员协调配合。当其中一个队员出问题时,其他队员会受影响。你的生活就会失衡。意识到这四个“你”之间的相互作用,对你而言是一个强有力的工具,你能由此找出发挥最佳状态的方法,让一切回归和谐平衡。

有个例子可以说明其原理:假如你一直缺乏精力,不想做任何事情。医生也检查不出你的身体有什么毛病。然后你注意到自己的精神状态不怎么理想。你很难做决定。情感也失衡了,你感到悲伤的时候多,感到快乐的时候少。而当你审视自己的灵魂时,你意识到自己没有人生目标,也无关紧要。

如果你努力找到会“让你的心歌唱”的事情,你将会有所作为(不论大小)。这样你就有了人生目标。它会让你感觉好一点儿。接着你发现你经常感到快乐比悲伤更多。随着你变得愈加自信,你会发现更易于做出好的决定。现在你每天早上醒来,对生活充满渴望,对于你今天能做的事情感到兴奋不已。你发现自己有精力和动力出去打拼。

在这里,“灵魂的你”这一队员是你所面对的挑战的核心,或者说根本原因。一旦你照顾好团队中这位“灵魂的你”,其他队员就能恢复彼此融洽的状态,发挥最大作用。

当任何一个“自我”失衡时,它会告知我们。我们主导着自身这个团队。我们可以重新理解或看一下这个整体的四个关键部分——实体的、精神的、情感的、灵魂的自己——直到我们明白团队中哪个队员是事情的根本原因。我们恍然大悟的时刻到来了,我们知道自己需要做些什么。

运用你在这里学到的来指导自己去照料失衡的团队成员。借助其他队员的帮助。通过给予你的每个队员参与的机会,你可以帮助自己变得健康。当你的团队成员恢复和谐融洽时,享受它们为你带来的益处。那正是健康所在。

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